According to Mead in the book The Engaged Socialist, the generalized other is developing a self(the part of our personality that is a combination of self image and self awareness) by interacting with others through the use of symbols and being able to see ourselves through the perspective of others. A dumbed down version of the meaning which is my definition would be how our peers see us. This leads to the similarity of the looking glass self, which was created by Cooley and it meant how we perceive ourselves based on how we think others see us. These situation happened mostly during my high school years, back when I moved to Juneau, Alaska my freshman year from Stockton. I had to start over and make new friends again. There was a group I wanted to be apart who had similar interest as myself but I had to adapting to certain things for me to believe they would accept me. Things such as speaking more grammatically correct, be more judging, and knowledge of the NBA(which I already knew) We were mean behind peoples backs but it was funny. Sometimes we were mean to peoples faces by embarrassing them in public. That part of their personalities grew on me so I became one of them. Now when I look at, I would change being mean to others because no on deserves to be treated that way. Changing the way I spoke was probably the most difficult thing I did because this was in 2007 and social media had not completely exploded around the world. So there would be times I would say slang words that they didn’t understand and I would have to explain. That is one thing I did not like doing was explaining myself. It was different with my California friends because I had been friends with them since kindergarten. So I did not have to adapt much because we grew up together mostly knowing everything about one another. Only when styles changed, technology evolved, or one of us started drinking is when we would have to adapt to one another. There were other moments in my life but this was the most significant.